It’s easy to adopt the victim mentality when you feel overwhelmed by the responsibilities of lone parenting, and it may seem like a dark and dreadful journey, but single parenting does get better.
For single parent families headed by moms, Father’s Day can bring a mixed bag of emotions. As you see families having brunch celebrating their dad’s special day, it’s hard to resist the thought of what it may be like for your kids (especially if they are boys) not to have a father to celebrate with.
Valentine’s day is here again and if you’ve been with the same lover for many years, you may be running out of Valentine’s ideas. Don’t let this year go down in relationship history as just “another Valentine’s day”. Be creative. Be original.
With the new age of technology and the plethora of dating sites, even some catered to single parents, it seems almost possible to date once again without cutting too much into your regular jam-packed single parent schedule.
The dating scene is bad enough out there. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of great people to meet, but it takes a while to sift through them all. The dating experience is so time-consuming and as we all know, time is a scarce resource even more so for single parents. But I guess it’s pretty easy to filter through all the date potentials after you tell him that you’re a single parent. That’s usually been my way of scaring people off.
As a hip and swinging “single”, our social circle may have been much larger, our physical energy more abundant, our money more disposable and our time more flexible. Since our induction into family life, we have little to no time at all for maintaining friendships let alone spending time for yourself. With a majority of our time, energy and money spent on meeting the needs and responsibilities of our family, most parents find themselves isolated and lonely. Friendship with members of our original social circle begins to fade as our family life becomes more demanding.
Who says being a mom is easy? It is enjoyable (most times), but not easy. If I only paid attention in home economics class during family planning week in high school, I probably would have thought twice about having a family especially at a young age. But when you’re in, you have to dive in with both feet. The kind of journey you have is what you make it out to be. So far, mine has been interesting to say the least.
After a divorce, everything will change – some to a lesser degree than others. Unless you embrace the change and expect a challenge ahead, you, as a single parent, will have an uphill battle to fight.
The days are finally getting longer again and it’s time to break out of the humdrum of winter. Spring is a season of growth and development and it is a great time to renew and recharge your SELF.
So your ex-spouse may have set you back financially and left you emotionally drained from the divorce. But, when the recovery is all said and done, there are many reasons to celebrate Single Parenthood.
Valentine’s Day can be a real drag for some of us “single” people. Every year, when Valentine’s Day comes around, some of us fantasize about being showered with gifts, receiving a bouquet of red roses, being whisked away for a weekend getaway or being surprised by that special someone in our life. But for us single folks, Valentine’s Day has become somewhat of a disappointment and only reinforces the fact that we have no one.
Some of us want what we don’t have and some of us have what we don’t want. We all have issues to complain about and we all have things we wished were different from what they really are. But, we all have things for which we can be grateful. Thanksgiving Day is the perfect time to reflect, appreciate and give thanks for our many blessings – disguised or not.