For most families, the holiday season is a joyous time of year but for others, like divorced and single parent families, it can be a really dreadful and stressful time. The holiday tradition of reminiscing tends to conjure bittersweet feelings for both parents and children of divorced families. Holiday celebrations remind them of the way things “used to be” and awakens them to the reality of a compromised celebration. The holidays will never be the same again.
Mother’s Day doesn’t have to break the piggy bank each year. After all, the best things in life are free. So kids listen up! If you can’t afford to buy your mom that fancy, thingy majigger that she always talks about, give her an experience that is heartfelt, meaningful and free.
For single parent families headed by moms, Father’s Day can bring a mixed bag of emotions. As you see families having brunch celebrating their dad’s special day, it’s hard to resist the thought of what it may be like for your kids (especially if they are boys) not to have a father to celebrate with.
Valentine’s day is here again and if you’ve been with the same lover for many years, you may be running out of Valentine’s ideas. Don’t let this year go down in relationship history as just “another Valentine’s day”. Be creative. Be original.
With the new age of technology and the plethora of dating sites, even some catered to single parents, it seems almost possible to date once again without cutting too much into your regular jam-packed single parent schedule.
The dating scene is bad enough out there. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of great people to meet, but it takes a while to sift through them all. The dating experience is so time-consuming and as we all know, time is a scarce resource even more so for single parents. But I guess it’s pretty easy to filter through all the date potentials after you tell him that you’re a single parent. That’s usually been my way of scaring people off.
As a hip and swinging “single”, our social circle may have been much larger, our physical energy more abundant, our money more disposable and our time more flexible. Since our induction into family life, we have little to no time at all for maintaining friendships let alone spending time for yourself. With a majority of our time, energy and money spent on meeting the needs and responsibilities of our family, most parents find themselves isolated and lonely. Friendship with members of our original social circle begins to fade as our family life becomes more demanding.
With the rising cost of living and the increasing demands of a career, some families have opened their doors to extended family members, like grandparents, to help with raising their family. For some, it’s a cultural norm to have in-laws, cousins or members of the nuclear family living in the same home, but for others it’s a matter of economic necessity.
So you may not look like the sexy thing you used to be before you had kids, but now that you’re a swingin’ single mom, who says “single moms can’t have fun”. You’ve unselfishly labored and toiled after the kids 24/7 and your world revolved around them for some time.